Updated: Feb 11
Once Justin and I got married or maybe even engaged we kind of stopped celebrating Valentine’s Day. We both didn’t like the pressure of having to do something romantic on a specific day and, more recently Insta-worthy, to show each other and the world how much we love each other. Especially Justin, this is something that really irritates him and I must admit kind of queasy for me too!! After nearly 20 years of marriage, we have learned that the secret sauce is deciding to be committed, kind, respectful, supportive, vulnerable, and act with love at the centre of it all. Now don't get me wrong, we have our bad days, there are days when we might not see eye to eye, or the kids have put a strain on the relationship or an elderly parent has pissed one of us off but in general we always know that no matter what we are both so lucky to have each other.
Sure, the getaways (we are well over due) and gifts over the years have been amazing, Justin is a spontaneous person so after a few spontaneous surprises I have learn to just go with the flow and put aside my organised mode. But it’s the daily decisions, our unwavering commitment to US that has helped us triumph through life’s ups and downs. It’s our WHY for being together - our shared values, vision of the future and desire to help each other grow—that we’ve leaned on through every tough season.
Building my business—and sustaining it through hard times—has required the same consistent dedication as my marriage. It’s incredibly rewarding and enticing to watch my business grow, coach incredible ladies, be asked to speak at events, have the privilege of meeting successful influencers, which is all backed by daily decisions to make my business a priority. It's about doing the hard things when your mind tells you otherwise. Sure, I've struggled, we all struggle but on those days its my WHY that pushes me through and ultimately makes those seasons unbelievably rewarding. My WHY is who I am today.
It’s the same for those of us who declare that we want to keep our bodies and minds healthy.
We must have a big enough reason WHY to do what’s inconvenient or uncomfortable or
seemingly selfish every day. If your WHY is to fit into a dress for a big event, what happens after the event is over or when there are no big events. When the trip is over or gets cancelled and you don't have a reason to get out of bed and exercise each morning. Those of us who watched the scale creep up and our healthy habits fall away during the pandemic were reminded that daily decisions to promote our health must be embedded in a bigger reason than one event, one dress or one trip.
What would happen to your relationship, your business, your health if you figured out WHY
they were important to you? Yes Valentine's Day is cute, especially for the young ones and I too remember being hopeful of a red rose on my doorstep...but this year, I encourage you to buy yourself some flowers to celebrate your commitment to serving Yourself. Don't wait for someone else to tell you they love you, Love Yourself first. And keep it up, no matter what the calendar says.