I have a long history with Fear. And, I bet you do too. The word Fear for most human beings brings anxiety, stress, sadness and pain.
For a long time, I allowed Fear to control my actions. I didn't create boundaries and say No to a lot of things I didn’t want to do because I was afraid of being judged and afraid of disappointing others. I didn’t pursue opportunities, didn’t take risks, didn’t start my business for 16 years!!! because I was afraid to fail, afraid I wasn’t good enough.
I was basically afraid to do anything out of my comfort zone because I feared what others would think.
For years this was just life until I decided that I didn’t want fear to hold the power over my life. I didn’t want fear to control me day in and day out, and I didn’t want my children to grow up with fear dominating their life like it had for me for so many years.
It all came to a screaming holt when I was asked by my company Director to speak in front of 500 plus people at a business engagement. After the initial panic driven fear crippled my body upon accepting the invitation, I started to realise how privileged I was and to also knock Fear on its head once and for all. So I came up with a process.
First, you must identify the fear. In this situation it was speaking in front of a large crowd. “I’m afraid to speak because I don’t know what the heck I would say.” Second, you think about what the worst possible outcome could be; I mean really think about the most horrible result you can imagine. “I will stand up there for 30 minutes not saying a word and being ridiculed and my career will be over.”
Now that you’ve gotten catastrophic out of the way, the third step is to ask yourself what you know to be true—what the facts are. “I am more than capable of speaking from the heart, I have built a beautiful business and I deserve to be recognised and I have three weeks to figure out what I’m going to say, which is plenty of time to prepare.” The facts are almost always exponentially better than the ridiculous complete untrue fear story we make up in our heads.
Finally, I truly encourage you to adopt a word that knocks Fear on it’s head. I love #FFEAR! You can make the F stand for whatever you want—fight, forget, farewell. For me, it’s a bit more colourful, if you get my drift. Whatever it is, adopt this mantra to take back your power. And I encourage you to teach this process to your children. I spent years freaking out over Fear. Fear of so many ridiculous limited beliefs and now looking back I only wish I could bring back the years I wasted not living the life I want to live.
I say #FFEAR !!!!!
So get out there and destroy FEAR once and for all.